Mixed up my cardio yesterday. Did stairs, hills and flat running. I didn’t use my head phones for music; I just needed to get outside, get in my own head and move...and decided to do so when it was 108º heat index. (smart). 😅
I recently listened to a good episode on @malloryervin podcast; she was talking with olympian gymnast, Shawn Johnson. They talked about how it’s not about your scores, your times, etc., It’s about your own effort. Stop comparing yourself and trying to obtain what everyone else's expectations are. This goes for more than working out and gymnastics. This is true in everyday life as well. The more you focus on the effort you put out into the world, into yourself and into your relationships, is exactly what you get back, which is far more fulfilling. We're all our own, biggest critics.
Don’t do something out of the expectation of others. Do it for yourself.
Potente mensaje de La Jefa. Emocion e Inspiracion para seguir abriendonos camino a codazos, como dice Isabel Allende #sororidad#selfworth#madonna
Over the weekend I had a conversation with my mother about self-worth. Being a former childcare educator, I felt like I came across these words a lot. I began to wonder about my ethics. I devoted so much of myself to this field that I allowed it to consume my time, energy and love for myself…eventually I became turned off by it. As sad as it was, I had to do something to bring me back to life. At the end of the day, always remember your self-worth.
I began to wonder what changed in me physically, emotionally, and mentally. The change I found wasn’t good. I became angry and bitter because I let myself go. I try to be all about the wellbeing of the mind, body, and soul, but this was beyond it. We all have choices, though. Like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman said, “I say when. I say who.” But what happens when something consumes you? Your emotions, thoughts and even time reflect in a different light. Life happens and things are inevitable. Has anyone dealt with this kind of conflict? Unconsciously you let your self-worth slip away because you intend to do the right thing.
Well right doesn’t always mean settle, devote, or give more than your own sanity. You can do something right and seek for what you deserve. We shouldn’t sell ourselves short. We must honor ourselves as we would any other person. #foodforthought#selfworth#sharingstories#photoblogger#selfcare#selfdevelopment#girlboss#thefemalehustlers#creativewriting#creativethinking#igstories#igbloggers
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📗This week we’re looking at a...close personal friend of mine, Imposter Syndrome.
Why does it show up + how can we work with it when it does. But let’s start at the beginning. What is it? And what can it sound like?
📓Imposter Syndrome is something most of us have experienced at some point. It’s a psychological term, referring to a pattern of behavior where we doubt our abilities + fear being exposed as an imposter. If we can acknowledge an accomplishment, we typically diminish it or reduce it to a ‘stroke of luck’
📕Above we can see some of Imposter Syndrome’s greatest hits. Some additional ones:
🔸How did I manage to wing this?
🔸They think I’m smarter than I actually am
🔸I should leave this relationship before they find out what I’m like
🔸I can’t accept the job. I’ll never be able to do it
📘Imposter Syndrome can limit:
✏️Our courage to seek + explore new opportunities
✏️Our sense of worth in relationships
✏️Our willingness to recognize our strengths, praise ourselves + advocate for what is rightfully ours
🔮If any of the above resonates with us, it may be worth reflecting on what situations or relationships Imposter Syndrome effect us the most in. What does it say to us? More importantly, what do we say back?✨
My greatest lesson
I do not think any parenting book can tick all the boxes of what it means to have a child! Not even your friend’s experiences can really prepare you. One day you think you have aced it and the next you wonder whose child it is you got out of bed. All I can say is be creative and learn to adapt .. I have become my own one woman theatrical show! Tonight, I transformed into a ‘lost blue towel’ to make Darian enjoy his bath!
Being in complete solitude is a trip. You’re confronted by the many versions of you, and now, you’ve got to decide who you are. I was recently faced with this, and it became so intense for me, almost unbearable. But then, utterly gratifying. When you’re looking in the mirror, and there isn’t anyone else to appoint responsibility for how you feel, shit becomes clear as mountain water. You’ve got to be there for yourself, on the good, bad, lighter and darker days. Independently celebrate your wins and grieve your losses, so that you feel every bit of them. Whichever version of yourself shows up every time, that’s your higher self. Trust that motherfucker when he shows you exactly who you are. That’s who you present to everyone else that’s waiting on the outside, looking in. And whatever anyone else thinks, that’s none of your business. The real ones will love you just how you are. Keep them close. Move with intention, walk with purpose, and get on with your mission. Period. ✊🏾
It's probably one of the most common questions we ask children when they're old enough to hold some semblance of conversation.
How many times, as an adult, when you're meeting someone new, is it one of the first things you ask or are asked "So, what are you then?" or some variation on that.
It implies that the job title you have is what you are as a person. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“I am a…”
It all puts WAY too much value on job titles and not enough on who we are as a person.
At 36, I've had many different jobs over the years.
I've worked in numerous sectors in different countries, and with people of all levels of education, experience, and job title. When I was younger I wanted to be all kinds of things - a ballet dancer, an olympic gymnast, an astronaut, a pilot, an actor...I've never been any of those things (but I still half dream they’re possible!)
The danger with this is that we place all our value as people into our job titles. We raise people up or put them down based on what they do to earn a living.
It means that if and when we no longer have that job title, and let’s be honest, that happens a lot these days, our entire sense of identity falls apart. It leads to all kinds of depression and anxiety. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It creates toxic work environments of people staying in jobs they hate because they don't know who they are outside of that title; because of people 'fighting' to get to and stay at 'the top' because of the perceived status and how that reflects on their identity; it causes people to treat others poorly (and to allow themselves to be treated poorly) because of how they perceive themselves and others as 'better than' or 'less than' just because of a job title.
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
Well, I for one, still have no idea what I want to DO when I grow up - I like my job and I love where I work and the people I work with – but, I know the person I am and the person I'm becoming is much more important.
What do you want to be when you grow up?
What is time? ⌚ 🕒 🎑 ☀
I have this conversation with friends a lot and we always like to dwell in philosophy about our idea of what time is.
This is my theory on it. I don't believe it exists, I genuinely believe the idea that we are as slow or as fast as a ticking clock or sunrise or set is just a hoax.
The power of the mind is restricted by the idea of a clock and calendar. The aging process is not the same for everyone, hence why some people look younger than their 'years' etc etc.
Live your life by your own speed and awareness of how you feel and the age you feel. Try your best to understand the age you feel not the age you've been told.
I would love to know your thoughts.
JJ 💯 🙏🏾 ♥
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Inside and out 💕✨ Despite what's going on in your life right now, stop and take a deep breath and smile. Why? Because your beauty is not only what people see but what people feel.
By taking a moment to appreciate yourself you are unconsciously radiating your beauty to others 🥰