A few weeks before having Lexie I did a story on my Q&A’s and one of the questions asked me what I thought I would find most challenging as a new parent, my answer then was control 🙋🏽♀️. Truth is, you really can’t control everything (sorry). I’ve had weeks where Lexie wakes up at 5:00am, weeks where she refuses her naps, refuses her food, is really clingy... 🤷🏽♀️ I would say the older she gets the less I can do to manipulate these things (except bedtime). When she was newborn I honestly had NO CLUE what I was doing and I mean that. So we had months of horrific sleeping patterns, hours on hours of endless screaming until 2/3am and if I’m honest it traumatised me a little, I became (and still am) very obsessive with her sleeping and eating patterns because I just couldn’t go through it again 😬. Don’t get me wrong we needed to tighten things up a bit, and for a few months there it was super tough to get her on a 7-7 routine in her own cot and it does revolve around day time sleep and milk intake.. but these days we can afford to be more chill, which is something I’m working on 🙈 Now that we live alone I sometimes find myself barely having sat down to actually relax from 6am until 9/10pm. I feel like everything has to be done and in its place. If she’s sleeping I’m cleaning, or getting a workout in, or showering. And in truth that’s just mum life! But it’s also me trying to take control of whatever I can. In a months time she turns one and I’ve been reflecting on the past year. If I had the time back I’m not sure I could say I would change anything, because it’s all been a (very steep) learning curve for me. I know the things I want to change moving forward, and if I ever went totally nuts and decided to do it all over again 🥴🙅🏻♀️ I would still advocate getting some form of routine down in the early days. But moving forward I’m trying to work on just chilling a bit if the routine/feeding goes haywire, avoid falling into easy solutions (aka giving tons of snacks/using the telly as distraction etc) and also I want to work on my emotional reactions to her tantrums/defiance 🤣 what parenting techniques did you change/develop during the early years? ✨
My goodness these two absolutely adore their daddy!
I am so exited to watch their relationship grow 💕✨
Selena and Dusty are off to nursery today, so me and Ash are taking all 3 dogs for their vaccinations (wish us luck!!!) And then I have the chiropractor!
What is everyone up to today?
🚾 TOILETS ON THE TUBE 🚾 For all you pregnant Mamas, distressed ‘MUMMY I need a WEEE or 💩‘ Mamas, anyone just busting because you haven’t got 5 secs to even go to the loo Mamas, toilet training Mamas 🙄 those who are desperate to go on a London trip but too scared cos of the toilet issues with a toddler Mamas...this is for you 👆🏼Obvs this applies to Dadas too 👨👦Thanks to the brilliant @allontheboard for saving a few parents butts (literally 🤦♀️) with this little list of every station with toilets in the station or nearby 🚽 I was actually going to attempt to do this myself...I mean where would I even start, so the relief was huge when this popped up on my feed yesterday 😅💜 #allontheboard#toiletsonthetube#londonunderground#travel#commuter#london
MORNING FROM BELGIUM!
Wij zijn gister aangekomen in ons vakantiehuis voor de komende dagen. Hoe tof? Wij zijn door @novasol uitgenodigd om een midweek hier in dit huis te verblijven. Onze 1e vakantie met Loua, als gezinnetje van 4👨👩👧👧 zo bijzonder. Via de stories nemen we jullie deze dagen mee in onze 'avonturen' kijken jullie gezellig mee? Liefs xoxo
National bow day and I almost missed it?! WHAAAT?! I am probably one of THE most bow obsessed mamas on earth! 🕺🏼💕😭😍🎀 Enjoy this photo in remembrance of when Penny didn’t rip her bow off the minute I put it on! 💔 Don’t worry I won’t stop buying them! I have faith she’ll grow out of this 😂😅 #nationalbowday#bowqueen
This just made me cry a little, in a good way. It touched my heart.
I tried so hard to be a good friend when my friends had babies. This was before I was even married.
It truly was a gift just to be able to do that for them. Getting it in return was an unexpected treasure.
I’ll never forget when my husband has his company’s Christmas party and my parents were unavailable to babysit. Archer was maybe three months-old and I panicked.
We’d just moved to a new town, I knew no one and wasn’t about to call a random babysitter. My PPD was a raging wildfire with no containment in sight. We were just going to skip the party.
But we didn’t have to.
Without hesitation my friend @jamiejamjamjam drove up, spent the weekended with us and watched Archer so we could go to the party. I didn’t even worry once, I can’t explain how free I felt being away and knowing my son was in the best hands. I felt so lucky to not only have her there, but that her family also happily supported her in being away for the weekend.
Cherish your friends, they’re one of the greatest gifts in our lives.
Via @modernmomprobs and @growupbrite ❤️❤️❤️
It’s a real task filling the lunchbox every morning and sometimes we wish we had a genie 🧞♂ to help us out!! Here are some more ideas and inspirations Incase you’re stuck with morning lunchbox duty like we usually are! 🍉Watermelon cut into little stars
Any more ideas for snack-box that you’d like to share? Just comment below!
Is it possible for the terrible twos to come early?
Logi-bear isn't even a year and a half and he is annoyingly moody... One minute he's happy as a clam, the next he's whining because he tripped over nothing. And he's hungry all the times that it isn't meal time. And he wants me to hold him all the times I want to do something. And the tantrums... THE TANTRUMS. .
I love him like crazy but MY GOODNESS he drives me crazy. And ya know what? That's okay! I don't have to like him 100% of the time. It's part of being a parent! Each phase will bring new kinds of trouble and new things to learn for him and myself. Remember: mama's learn how to be mama's along with their babies learning to be people. ❤️
55/100- Being present in my mothering season of life.
Honestly this has been very challenging for me. I've always been the kind of person to have multiple things going on all at once & more things brewing! Motherhood has literally put a break on it because Dharma needs me, ALL OF ME. If I do accept an opportunity that comes my way then I know things will slack at home or with him. Everytime I do take an opportunity outside of my mothering I am challenged to my limits. Theres piles of laundry, dishes, filthy floor, getting short with my family members, being grumpy, tired as hell & more. Don't get me wrong I do believe that as a mama I need to have something other than mothering as an engagement (& I do) to keep me whole as a person, but it's a VERY fine line for me... You see I'm human & I just can't do everything nicely. Something has to GIVE. Personally, I'm coming to the realization that I'm not sure if it's my mothering that I want to give... It's SUCH a short period of time in the long scheme of things. My baby will only be little for so long, the nightly milk will only be so long. The warm cuddles will only be so long. His touch to reach out to me when he's sleeping to see if I'm there will only be so long. The spontaneous kisses will only be so long. He giggles when he plays peekaboo will only be so long. The constant tugging on my leg while cooking & pulling my trousers down will only be so long. It's so exhausting when a child is little they need so much, CONSTANTLY. It's hardwork + sleepy puffy eyes of course! The smile at the end of the day just melts my ❤️ & it's so worth it. He won't be needing these things his whole life. He'll one day become an independent man & I'll look back missing these days so very dearly.
That being said in the meantime, I'm going to try, enjoy it & just try to be present. It's the best gift I can give myself & my child. Undivided time which will give him the security he needs to flourish. It's a gift knowing I have given it my all when I could (this looks different for everyone and every situation). For now I'm learning how to say no to things that do come up. I'll only be mothering Dharma like this for THIS LONG.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐮𝐥.
You are strong.
𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦.
You have skills and talents no one else has.
You have a personality that makes you uniquely you.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠.
You are loved.
I’ve been loVing the @tezzaapp lately!
It’s super easy to navigate, has presets, allows you to edit with simple tools, and copy your edit from one photo/ video to a whole selection in one step.
Also digging the templates available in the same app, the fonts & colours are really unique/vintage/retro. 🌞
23 weeks today. Life has been so full of copy edits for the book, summer adventures, toddler-raising, and the grief that surrounds yearly anniversaries, this baby has received a little less attention than his brothers did at this point. But that truth comforts me in some strange way, because it feels accurate for the third baby. And his movements are felt more frequently now, his feet inching towards my ribs. A familiar dance that brings us closer.
We recently had our anatomy scan, which gave us more information about this little one. Baby’s organs are normal, spine looks beautiful, fluid levels measure great. I am so grateful that these are the words that were spoken to us. But we also learned this: baby’s umbilical cord is inserted marginally into his placenta (meaning, less than 2 cm from the edge of it) instead of in the centre where it usually inserts. Something that happens in about 7% of pregnancies, something that can increase the risk for various adverse outcomes.
So here I am, grateful for a healthy babe, and at the same time terrified to even be slightly worried about the cord. The cord. The thing that has failed us before.
We’re in the best hands. Baby will continue to be monitored closely, his growth checked carefully now. And my job with this truth is this: acknowledge the fear, learn from it, and let it go. Because yes, this scares me. And yes, it’s ok that it does. I can honour that feeling at the same time I honour my feelings of confidence in our birth team—in their confidence about getting him safely into our arms.💛 How have you dealt with anxiety? What about anxiety that’s specific to pregnancy after loss? And if you’ve had a marginal cord insertion, would you share your experience?
My little sis doesn’t know this because I’m SO weird about sharing my feelings (shocking yet true), but this has easily become my favorite thing in the world to witness. ⠀
I can’t believe my baby girl has the BEST aunt in the universe. She’s so dang lucky!⠀
The cuddling, book reading, movie watching, adventuring, pancake cooking, and laughing never ends. It’s a constant thing in our household. ⠀
The three of us Schussler Gals living under the same roof, starting a new journey together, getting closer and making memories. ✨ ⠀
Ugh. Be still, my heart. I can’t wait to see these two deepen their bond. 💕⠀
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Today, I held you anyway.
The first time I held you, you were just seconds old. You snuggled into my chest, just like it was your home. I was sore, and exhausted, and overwhelmed. But I held you anyway.
5 days, 5 weeks, 5 months my chest continued to be your safe place. And holding you there, became mine. I found peace in the rise and fall of your breath. Our heartbeats would sync and your little snores and coos became the soundtrack to my days. And there were dishes, and laundry to be done. Messes to be swept and errands to be run. But I held you anyway.
You grew and grew and soon your time on my chest became less and less. You had places to explore and things to learn. You soon found comfort and joy in other places. And a quick glance ,hug or kiss on the head was all you needed from me to comfort you. But at the end of the night, your head usually found its place on my chest. The rise and fall of your breath, so familiar. And I was tired, and smelly, and touched out. But I held you anyway.
Then those nights on my chest became less. You could fall asleep on your own and once again needed me less. You went of to school and the time that was once filled with your head on my chest became me wondering what you were thinking, and doing and learning. And nights became busy and books and goodnight kisses became rushed.
And then today, you needed me. Your tummy and head hurt. And there were dishes to be done, and messes to be swept, and toys to put away. But I held you anyway.
I know gradually and all at once, the day will come that you won't need me the way you do now. New challenges will bring new forms of comfort. You'll grow and I'll grow. And there will be chores to be done, work to complete, and moves to be made. But I will always hold you anyway ❤️ #musingsonmotherhood
Choose happy. Even when it seems hard. Try to see the glass half full. Make a list of things you are grateful for. Look for those little things that spark joy or make you smile. Be still enough to hear the little God whispers to show you He is near. My girls are so good at this. They always try to see the bright side and find the smallest things to be joyful about. They even saw it on my face this evening and we giggled so much about it. I guess an eyelash landed at the perfect spot on my face. Swipe left and see if you can find the smiley face ON my face. 🙂Hope it brings a little smile to your face tonight. #choosehappy#frankienclare#smileyface#thelittlethingsmatter
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💚Our morning harvest. 😮 🍅 🥒 🥕 😮 Yesterday we had some friends over to pick veggies. I thought they got all the big ones, but this big Kahuna was hiding in the garden. It’s 9.5 in around and a foot long! It was a fun find for sure.
💛Our salad cucumbers and carrots that we planted from seed are doing wonderful and taste delish! We also found a strange-looking yellow cucumber that tasted amazing (like a lemon cucumber). Swipe to see Gracie devouring them.