Now, there are a few cases where people get better after a break up and when they get back together, things are way better. So, that's not who I'm referring to here.
I'm talking about the trash trash kinda relationship. The one where you literally had to run for your life. And now they're back, no sign of improvement, but you're lonely enough to even CONSIDER having them back. That's a No No honey!
Whatever you pick from the trash will always stink! 🤷♀️
love your friends and people close to you (or even things like music , sunsets, art, books etc) and don't pause your life and pursuit of mutual vulnerability waiting for romantic love
thanks for coming to my Ted talk
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• La lettre U - Comme dans urbain 🏙 Swipe ➡️ for the pronounciation. Each Monday we post a new letter! — Pour faire une phrase complète, tu pourrais dire: « J’aime la vie urbaine. J’aime la vie en ville! » (I like urban life. I like city life!). Ou encore « J’habite en ville. J’habite en milieu urbain ». Et toi, où habites-tu? - J’habite en milieu urbain.
- J’habite dans un quartier urbain.
- J’habite en ville.
OU - J’habite en campagne.
OU - J’habite en banlieue.
>>> This one means you live in the suburbs.
Urbain est à l’opposé de campagne. Vivre en campagne c’est vivre où il y a de la nature. Vivre en ville, c’est où il y a des bâtiments.
I want to find a way to set a timer on this. A way to hold my self accountable, and a way to track how much time I waste.
I spend hours, literal HOURS a day thinking about what other people think about me.
And not just on instagram. Not just thinking, oh did that get enough likes.
But, thinking, what if this person gets mad at me because of this thing I did 4 years ago. And then it spirals into, and then how will this effect this relationship. And who will stop being my friend because of this, and what will they say about me.
And then I do this about work. I do this about everything I’ve ever worked on. Was it good enough. Or do I have a terrible reputation for how slowly I got back to them. Was I too slow? Was I too much? Did I email with too many exclamation marks?
And I go down these rabbit holes. Rabbit hole, after rabbit hole.
And I never come up with anything nice to say about myself.
But here’s the thing. People work with people they like working with. People like surrounding themselves with the people they like being with.
So, yeh, maybe I’m over analyzing. And maybe not every single client I’ve ever had a hates me. And all my friends probably don’t have a burn book about me.
And at the end of the day, what really matters, is how I feel about me. Am I being the type of person I want to be? Am I working towards what I want to work towards? Do I like me?
That’s what really matters.
So I want to time myself, because I want to stop spending hours of my days thinking about how other people think of me. I want to shift my focus to being the kind of person I want to be. And liking that person. Liking me.