Coming out doesn't scare me. What scares me is the possibility of abandonment from the ones I love the most. Tonight I had planned to come out to my bestest friend. She's my person and I love her to pieces. I want her to know the deepest part of me but I fear she'll abandon me like everyone else. I need to trust that the love I hold for her is reciprocated and that she will accept me just like every other way she has accepted and loved me. Send good vibes as I try again sometime this week... #comingout#lgbtq#pansexual#journey#learningtotrust
Had a blast with my best friend Kelsea Rose a few nights ago. Here are a few selfies together and I'm so happy to announce that I am offically openly a transgender female and I can't wait to complete this journey so I can finally be happy in my skin. It'll be a long ride but I'm ready to do this💜 I love you all thank you for the support. 💜 #comingout#transgender#transfemale#male2female#transition#thebeginning
Hey y'all - I have a question. For those us who have come out or still in the closet - what was your experience with therapists and counselors as you tried to explore, define and understand your sexuality?
My experiences were very poor. My first therapist (2010- she was straight) who I went to talk about these issues, asked me "Have you ever slept with a woman before? When I said no, she never brought it up again. I thought to myself, "well, I guess I'm.....not?" The second time was in 2014 with a lesbian therapist in marriage therapy with my ex-husband. We did not go to her because she was a lesbian, but after seeing her for about a year or so, my then slow gaydar pinged and I realized she was gay. In marriage therapy I brought up the fact I thought I might be a lesbian. She did not address it at all. No light bulb went off in her head that said "Oh, maybe this might be part of their marriage problems." We got to the tired old excuse that my attraction to women somehow had to do with not getting the love I needed from my mother. (Insert eye roll here.) I stayed in this therapeutic relationship because she had helped a lot in other areas. And I also went back into the closet for another couple years - a lesbian didn't see me as gay - so I must not be. Sigh.
When I came out the last time it was with the same therapist. This time she did and said all the right thing and was very kind. We worked through the lack of support she had shown the couple of years before. I reiterated to her how important it was to take questions such as these with seriousness and not dismiss them. I hoped it helped her practice.
Another big factor that helped me this time was that I was exhausted of trying to fit into the heteronormative paradigm and I finally was ready to acknowledge my sexuality.
Along with some colleague sI am hoping to open this conversation in the therapeutic world, not only for the later in life community but for the larger gay community as well.
Would you share you stories of seeking help? If you feel comfortable, please share in the comments below or private message. All stories shared with me privately will be anonymous and confidential. Thank you!
When I first decided to “publicly” come out over Instagram, I was nervous. 🤭
Not as nervous as the first time I ever came out, and definitely not as nervous as when I came out to my parents, but it felt like the final step of the coming out process, and I would be lying if I said there weren’t a lot of little fears that crept in.
I told my sister @lexidangelo that I wanted launch my coaching biz in tandem with coming out—on a separate & new Instagram account—one where no one followed me, and so therefore, no one would be able to judge me. 👀
I quickly realized that my excuse for creating a new Instagram account was based solely out of fear—and fear definitely wasn’t a good enough excuse.
The thought of coming out over Instagram scared me for a bunch of reasons. As much as I don’t like to admit it, much of that fear revolved around worrying about what a few of my random old friends from middle school, high school and college would think.
I quickly got over that and realized that to give a s**t about those few people when this post could help so many, was not only ridiculous, but was also relatively self-centered.
There’s ALWAYS going to be people that aren’t on board with who you are and what you are doing...and that’s okay!! I recently learned that if I’m not ruffling some feathers, then I’m probably not doing enough.
I’m here to be authentic, and I’m here to make as big of an impact as I possibly can, even if that means not being able to please everyone. 🌈
Comment with an emoji below if you are ready to start living authentically in big & bold ways! 💥
so word is lil nas x came out at the end of pride week.
young thug says lil nas x shouldnt of came out, despite growing acceptance, i think hip hop dx did a good job addressing this topic, however
i want to briefly speak my mind on a broader note in regards to homosexuality in hip hop culture,
link in bio, though im sad i forgot to mention that bullying gay blacks helps perpetuate the aids epidemic that kills so many of us. let niggas be who they are.
My little cousin is like my bro and therefore his opinions matter. I'm so happy he truly loves Cela. Seeing him talk and bond with her makes me so happy. I told her she doesnt know how to skate and even more than I did he convinced her and took time to help me help her. I love them both so much and they mean the world to me. I hope he always loves her. And to my love, thanks for being so patient and understanding w him because he can be annoying🙄😂. I never thought cela would truly get to be treated as well as she should by my fam. But everyone loves her. Grandma and all. •
#love#couplegoals #❤ #trinityandcela#forever#pride#pridemonth#lesbian#bisexual#comingout#teenlove#us#proud#pride#loveislove#family
I’ve never been more happy than I am now! That’s because I’ve decided to choose happiness!
You just stumbled upon a coming out post. So here it goes. I’m bisexual.
While I grew up I slowly became aware of the fact that I was attracted to guys. To understand myself I started going out with both guys and girls. The happiness that I felt while I dated both genders is something that has shaped who I am.
I grew up a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and still consider myself a member. To fully understand the gospel I became very active in the faith and did everything that was expected. The happiness I feel while studying the gospel is something that has shaped who I am.
My sexuality and my faith are two things that I always saw them as opposite that could not coexist. I’m learning that they can- though it can be difficult at times. I always had too much shame about one or the other and felt out of balance. But I have learned I don’t need to be shameful I just need to be faithful and proud of who I am! I choose both and I choose happiness!
Many people ask why I don’t just choose the “easy way” and date girls and be straight. I also get questions if being bi is just a stepping stone to gay. The simple answer is- I am Bi regardless of who I am dating. And I choose happiness- sometimes that means dating women and sometimes that means dating men.
Through this journey I have experienced many emotions- anger, self-loathing, shame, depression, anxiety, and more. As I’ve come out over the past two years I have received an outpouring of kindness, love, and support. I am so lucky for those people who have walked this journey with me. To those people- Thank you!
To those figuring out where they fall in the LGBTQ community and to their family- you are not alone! This topic is something that needs to be talked about- not in hushed whispers glancing over your shoulders, but in confident voices in normal conversation. It is time for people to be proud of who they are.
I know I have a long road ahead of me and I don’t know what is going to happen. But I will look up and look forward seeking light, laughter, and love.
I had the best time talking to Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach - listen in to our discussion. I promise you’ll have a real good time! (Points for musical recognition) 013: Internalized Homophobia and all that Jazz – Seth Vermilyea - Link in bio #tarot#comingout#realmenrealtalk