At our networking group this week, we talked about #habits that have led to anything from #healthyliving to #timemanagement to building #relationships.
Here were my contributions:
1. Think time.
#Think time is massively important but it’s also so frustratingly easy to overlook. My think time comes best when I occupy my busy mind with an activity such as mowing my lawn or windshield time. My creative mind is fluid... I can compose a talk in my mind, come up with solutions to difficult decisions I’m facing or ideate freely.
Think time is incredibly valuable for anyone, especially if you’re in charge of a project, a business or a team.
However, most leaders I work with are embarrassed to say “zero” when asked about how many hours they’ve spent #thinking about their big objectives in the last 90 days.
Think time is productive and necessary. It’s how #innovation occurs but we MUST create margin time for it to occur. A full calendar leaves no white space for think time.
2. Before I meet with people, I meet with God.
Before a meeting with a client. Before a hard #conversation, before a sales call, before coffee with a friend, God and I talk.
Meeting with God grounds me. Reminds me to serve others. Keeps me #humble. Calms me.
What are your best habits or disciplines?
I had to let her go! A relationship where you just go with the flow, for if there is no glow it is impossible for things to grow. I had to let her go! We don’t kiss n hug we say hi n goodbye, so it was dead from the beginning n never came alive. I had to let her go! Good personality beautiful inside, tho we lack communication n that’s where relationships die. I had to let her go! Truth be told I feel like I’ve been holding her hostage, I can see she wants more but I’m not feeling the bondage. I had to let her go! I’m too old to be a fool so I can’t just settle, the next woman in my life is going to be my FOREVER! I HAD TO LET HER GO! #GVO#relationships#glow#growth#kiss#hug#hi#goodbye#beautiful#communication#hostage#settling#forever#goodvibesonly#asrealasitgets#onlygodcanjudgeme
Learning to try and be happy totally alone, at least in the romantic sense. Plus it's important to build deep friendships unconnected to romantic feelings. Romantic friendships can be super deep and fulfilling, but if you rely on them exclusively the rug gets pulled out from under you and your world gets torn apart and you suddenly find yourself alone and isolated if that relationship ends or they get involved in an all consuming new relationship with someone else and you get replaced. .
I'm learning to be comfortable alone again and to be my own friend and not rely on others for happiness or comfort or validation. Not to say I'm deliberately isolating myself. I still want to be social and meet friends. But I don't want to rely exclusively on one person, especially someone I date or love deeply in a romantic way. Sadly these friendships don't last perhaps unless you make an entire life together. Unfortunately that hasn't worked out for me yet. Perhaps someday. .
For now I'll learn to be happy inside myself, to be stronger and more emotionally resilient. It's a daily struggle when you had a best friend for years and years who suddenly wants nothing to do with you. But life goes on and I will survive and become stronger and find my own inner peace and happiness that doesn't rely on others or on romance. .
Marchvelous 25th Anniversary of Shangri-La Jakarta! Now I am become a participants of painting competitions 5 minutes duration. Yeay....painting with full of love and relax...we are a very great team. We build our family engagement ! Congrats Shangri-La Jakarta and Andra for your last day today #marchvelousday#celebrated25thanniversary#relationships
Anonymous, UK, 33
"I was 16-years-old and it was the morning after I lost my virginity. I’d been with my boyfriend, who was 22, for about six months and it felt like the right time. The evening itself was wonderful, we went for dinner and then back to my family home.
Honestly, it was as good a first time experience as I could have wished for but I still wasn’t sure if the condom had worked. Maybe, I was just extra paranoid, but put it this way, I didn’t want to take the risk.
My boyfriend, who lived in London, had to leave early the next morning and I was due to head off with my family to Seattle on a family holiday.
When I mentioned to my mum that we’d had sex and I was worried about the condom splitting, she marched me down to the pharmacy. I felt like I had done something fundamentally wrong and felt very alone. To make it worse, Mum wouldn’t talk to me for the whole flight to the States.
I’m so glad it’s becoming easier to have these conversations. Women should never judge other women like that, it’s just not right. My mum should have realised that I was actually being very responsible by opening up. It’s stood me in good stead in relationships ever since.
Women should not be ashamed to buy the morning after pill, it’s time to end the taboo, time for change and time to empower the sisterhood."
ellaOne film-coated tablet for emergency contraception. Contains ulipristal acetate. Always read the label.