Disclaimer: this is going to be a longer post. Read if you wish.
"How do you know if you've never tried it?"
"What guy fucked you wrong?"
"If you use toys, why don't you just sleep with men?"
"Lesbians are only good for sex."
"Who's the man in the relationship?"
"Can I watch?".
With how the world is going these days, it is terrifying. Abortion bans and a man in charge of my country who laughs at sexual assault as if it's some sort of casual joke at some shitty cocktail party with all of his rich friends.
I shouldn't feel afraid to post a picture of my girlfriend and I online because of the dread of the onslaught of hate that I'm going to get for it.
I shouldn't be afraid to walk down the street holding her hand because of the critical looks we get from families walking by with children, or specifically from men who "want in on it". I shouldn't feel afraid for my safety in a social situation with another human being because my love is against their religion.
I shouldn't feel backed in an corner by a man's vulgar questions that I listed above this post.
There's been men who have threatened to make an example of me, as to why lesbians aren't truly lesbians once they get "good dick".
I also shouldn't be singled out by my own family just because I'm the only one in a same sex relationship. I'm often told to hold off on my small signs of affection because it makes them uncomfortable.
I shouldn't have to put on a mask and pretend that I'm like everyone else when I'm not.
I shouldn't have to cry in the bathroom because when I go in, there's another woman in there, and she sees my short hair, my lack of make up, and my flat chest, and immediately scoffs at me and says, "you shouldn't be in this bathroom. You're in the wrong one. That's disgusting." I'm shouldn't feel trapped in my own skin because society cannot just accept me for who I am.
The nasty looks I get, even when I just peck my girlfriend's cheek in public is unreal.
I could go on and on, but I decided to just graze the topic of my fears.
If you are a member of the LGBTQ community, you have a safe place in my dms. I understand what you're going through. You are not alone.
Don't be afraid. I'm here.