An Expansive Air, Day 5 of the #DoubleDealerChallenge
We’re flipping back out of esoteric analysis and into something lighter. This time we channel Gemini’s curiosity through Gemini’s communication skills.
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There’s not any esoteric background, but people tend to view someone as a better conversationalist when that person asks meaningful questions. Why do you think it might be?
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Be capable of two-way communication.
RECEPTION & EXPRESSION
—Shuffle your deck and ask, “What are some things I should learn more about?” (It’s different from Day 3.) Draw 3 cards in response to the question. Identify a topic represented by each. It will be more useful if the topic is not an area of expertise for you and not something about which you have strong opinions.
—Then for each topic, ask yourself, “Who can tell me more about this?” Rather than learning from a book or website or some other source of information, you’re going to use Gemini’s sociable side to speak or chat with another human being in real time. For each topic, think about someone who can tell you more about it. They don’t have to be experts or even well-informed. The point is to engage in a conversation where you’re genuinely interested in the person’s thoughts. If you can’t think of someone, think of a place where you could find a stranger to ask, such as a library, trivia night, or anywhere it’s appropriate to ask random things.
—Once you’ve determined the what & who, ask, “How can I make the most out of the conversation?” Draw a card in response, but don’t turn it over until you’ve come up with a few answers of your own.
—Now go have a conversation. Ask questions and listen to the answers. Engage with the act of conversation for its own sake, and don’t worry so much about the content.
—Afterwards, share with someone what you learned, either about the art of conversation or about the topic at hand (or both). What went well? What could have gone better? When will you do it again?
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I tried to come up with a #HopeWriterLife post all day yesterday, but I couldn’t for the life of me figure out what my #SLANT is, what I bring to the table. After a trip to the tattoo parlor with mommy this afternoon, I think I know it now.
IT’S NOT THE END; LIFE GOES ON.
My prayer and my ministry is that you will all know your value because of my words. That you will all know healing because of my words. That you will all come closer to God because of my words.
And, Father Dear, bind my wandering heart to You. ❤️
There are many ways to start talking to a stranger or someone you do not know well. Many people are afraid of sounding awkward or have no idea what is appropriate to say. Here are some ideas: .
1) 😃 Start with a natural smile. People who appear friendly will have a much easier time than someone who looks solemn or too serious. .
2) 🙅🏻♂️ Do not just say “Hey”! You can ask for directions or give a small complement. Do not overdo it and make it appropriate for the situation. For example, “Hey excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice your shoes, I love the style! Where did you get them?” .
3) 💁🏻♂️ Pay close attention to body language. If the person you are speaking to is clearly uncomfortable or in a rush, be respectful. Do not stand too close or invade their personal space. If you find things are awkward, point out something in the environment. For example, “Did you see that dog walk by? It was adorable! I wonder what kind it was?” .
4) 🙋🏻♂️When all else fails, ask questions about them. People generally love to talk about their interests, hobbies, and passions. Try to make a connection around a subject area. .
What other suggestions do you have? Stay tuned for short videos coming! .
Mai Chen is one of New Zealand’s most respected, admired and recognized leaders. A quick Google search will reveal her many impressive career and entrepreneurial achievements. Chen is the Managing Partner of Chen Palmer, Australasia’s first public law specialist firm, which she co-founded in 1994. She is an Adjunct Professor at the University of Auckland School of Law and a BNZ Board Director. She is widely know as the "superdiversity" expert. She's also a best-selling author.
We’re thrilled to have spoken with such an accomplished and multidimensional entrepreneur who embodies the power of Global Citizenry. We know you’ll be as inspired as we are after reading Elle’s conversation with Mai and we highly recommend you watch her TED talk right after.