But I remember a school trip to London when I was 12. I remember being both shocked and super excited because I was seeing numerous Asians, blacks and Sikhs on the streets and even at work in shops, museums and restaurants. It was the first time I felt like I could be just ordinary, invisible. I remember thinking “This is what it must be like for all the other kids to walk down the street.” To just be yourself without any self-consciousness felt so liberating.
Fast forward to my coming out when I was 17 and entered a gay youth organisation. Naturally I was the only Asian there, but I remember feeling appreciated for my appearance. And when going out, being Asian was never a big issue. I even felt gay people liked my appearance.
Not much later I met my first long-term boyfriend. During that relation the whole internet-social media-smartphones-dating app thing happened. And when we split up, the world had become a different place. - Stef-Han in Brussels